Jodie hobbled into my consulting room, sat down and took a deep sigh.
“How’s things?” I asked.
“Couldn’t be worse” she replied.
“I had to go into hospital for an operation and I have come in contact with the worst bug possible, even worse than Golden Staph. It is called methicillin-resistant staphylococcus aureus (MRSA).”
“There is no cure for it. Doctor said I will have it for all time and it can’t be treated. It’s resistant to everything.”
Jodie then proceeded to show me her legs where the infection had taken hold.
“Does it get better and then, for no apparent reason, get worse?”
“This is the worst it has been?”
“Does it get worse when you are stressed?”
“I don’t get stressed!”
For the next 10 minutes, Jodie explained what the doctors were telling her re the history of this superbug, how bad it is and how it is affecting thousands of people without a cure in sight.
I then asked about her immune system.
“I don’t have one” she said.
This conversation reminded me of the many conversations I have with people about overcoming depression, anxiety, cancer and losing weight.
It is easy to get caught up in the problem.
You may have even heard people go to great lengths to explain how bad their problem is. Some even say their problem is the worst known.
I go to public seminars on depression, illness and eating disorders. For the duration, they explain the problem and how it affects people. They then have others get up and speak about their problem and at the conclusion they say how important it is to talk to someone about it.
Here’s the deal.
Speaking about the problem will help. You still have the same mindset so nothing will change. I know this because I have tried this tact many times in my younger years.
Like Jodie, continually speaking about it will lead to the person feeling a victim.
Victim mentality will only produce more problems.
When I asked Jodie what was her Ideal state, her Ideal Goal, she replied “To get rid of this infection.”
Is focusing on her infection going to increase or decrease her immune system?
You cannot get out of a state. You can only get into a new state.
Please re-read this. It is super important.
You can’t get out of depression. You can get into a state of happiness.
Instead of trying to get rid of an illness, focus on getting into and being in a state of great health.
Instead of trying to lose weight, focus on being healthy, fit, slim and happy.
For Jodie, focus on her legs being healthy, she being happy with life and her immune system killing off this superbug.
Will it work?
What I do know is Jodie will feel much happier and have a good immune system. This will give her the best chance of beating the infection.
Focus on what you would Ideally like to achieve.