There are an increasing number of people experiencing anxiety, anxiety attacks and panic attacks. These can become so bad, the person doesn’t want to leave their home – which then produces more problems.
People who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks generally also suffer from depression. I define depression as a state where there is a problem with no solution. People who are not able to do the things they would like to do experience this debilitating feeling. You can learn about depression by clicking here.
What is Anxiety and Panic?
They are feelings of not being in control.
There is a progression of feelings:
Calmness → Nervous → Anxious → Panic
As an example, you may feel totally calm until a friend asks you to speak at a major function. As the function nears, you begin to feel nervous. On the day, nerves may be overtaken by anxiety and as the big moment approaches, panic can set in.
When you feel calm, you feel totally in control. Nervous, you feel slightly out of control. Anxious, you feel more out of control and when you panic, you feel totally out of control.
Thus, panic has a function. It keeps you safe. Think of walking down a dark alley and hearing footsteps. You panic because you don’t know who it is and fear they may attack you. Adrenaline kicks in as each step is faster and longer. You quickly reach an area of light and proceed through it. Looking back, you see a 10 year old boy. Your panic now turns to calm as you feel more in control. If the boy was to now produce a knife or a gun, there is a great chance panic will return.
If you are not comfortable giving a talk, you feel out of control to some degree.
There are many different circumstances that can bring on an attack. Any situation where you do not feel in control will contribute to it. I have had clients who suffer when they have to perform in front of people. Others worry they will have something happen to them in public. One man would not go into a shopping centre because he was worried he would have a heart attack or faint and make a fool of himself. The fear of making a fool of himself was so great, he felt anxious every time he thought of venturing out in public.
Thinking of something that produces anxiety will only increase the sensation. The more you think about it, the worse it becomes.
The following are some of the many solutions available to you:
1. Seek Medical Help
A doctor will often prescribe medication that calms you down and makes you feel better. This can be a good place to start. However, when you are feeling better, it is important to emotionally deal with the problem. Failure to do so often means (i) you continue to stay on the medication, (ii) the problem may become worse so you will need stronger medication, and/or (iii) you can become dependent on the drug to overcome the problem.
2. Seek Professional Help
Consult with someone who specialises in helping people overcome this problem. See if your area has a group who can support you.
Ask the professional how they will deal with the problem and how many sessions you will need.
Find someone who can help you deal with the cause.
3. Deal With the Problem
As anxiety, panic and nerves are a feeling of being out of control, learn how to emotionally feel in control. While this topic is too large to go into here, you will gain answers from two of my books – “You Have The Power” and “Empower Yourself: A Practical Guide To Building Self Esteem” – and my on-line course “Live Your Life Potential”.
A question well worth asking is: If I do a certain task, what is the worst possible thing that is going to happen to me?
In the above example, the man had an anxiety attack every time he thought of entering a shopping centre. What is the worst thing that could happen? He might have a heart attack or faint and look silly. Worrying about this only increases the fear.
How often has he had a heart attack or fainted?
Where did theses thoughts come from?
He saw an older woman faint in a shopping centre and a crowd gathered to see what was happening. He thought “how embarrassing” and “I’d hate that to happen to me”.
While most people focus on the state they don’t want, they receive that state – and in abundance. If a room becomes filled with smoke and someone yells “Fire. Don’t panic” no prizes for guessing the result – Panic.
When this man kept thinking about fainting or having a heart attack, he began talking himself into it. The more he thought about it, the worse it became.
Focus on the state you wish to achieve.What is the opposite to nervous, anxious and panic?
Calm, relaxed and in control. Use key words that will help you produce the state you desire.
Learn how to control your thinking. Learn how to feel good in each situation. Deal with the negatives that are holding you back. Change them into positives.
As the old saying goes: There is nothing to fear except fear itself.
When I speak in public (I could never do it because of fear and anxiety), I have key words that allow me to achieve the state I desire. I refuse to let negative words or states get a look in.
If you are unable to deal with the way you feel, seek help. The quicker you do, the quicker you are on the road to recovery and enjoying a better life.
Like to Know More?
If you would like to know more on how to begin dealing with anxiety or panic attacks, you can:
(i) Make an appointment. You can consult with Clive in person or have a telephone/skype consultation. To consult with him in person, you can either phone Julie on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) to secure a time or e-mail us on email@example.com
(iii) Purchase the “Live Your Life Potential” Program when it is available.
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