Addictions

 

There are an increasing number of people who are hooked on drugs. Some are hooked for “medical” reasons (like to overcome pain or depression) while others are hooked to make themselves feel better.

What is most concerning is many young people are experimenting with illicit drugs or are using them on a regular basis.

People who regularly use drugs generally also suffer from depression. I define depression as a state where there is a problem with no solution. People who are not able to do the things they would like to do experience this debilitating feeling. You can learn about depression by clicking here.

 

What is an Addiction?

You can become addicted to many substances. There are illicit drugs (like heroin, marijuana, speed, ecstasy, ice, amphetamines, cocaine, morphine, codeine and methadone and steroids to name a few), prescribed drugs (like antidepressants and those used for pain control), alcohol, nicotine and caffeine.

All these drugs produce a response within the body. In essence, they make a person feel better in some way.

While many believe your body becomes addicted to the drug, I don’t.Everything you do through your own free will you do so because you gain a benefit from it. If there is no benefit, you simply don’t do it.

I find:

You don’t become addicted to the product,

you become addicted to the benefit you receive from taking the product.

This is why it is critical to identify and treat the benefit.

In the following diagram, if you had a choice of being at Point A or Point C, which one would you choose?

 

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You want to be at Point A. If you are unable to get there through your own thinking, you will resort to anything to achieve it. Many go for a product like drugs, alcohol, nicotine (cigarettes), food or caffeine. These will lift you to Point B. You then become dependent on the product to produce that feeling.

Ask someone on drugs or alcohol what it does for them and a common reply is “It makes me feel good”, “It numbs the pain” or “It gives me confidence”.

Therefore, are they addicted to the product or the feeling?

The feeling. Take the product away and they will go through withdrawals (as they have slipped back to Point C) and will crave the product back. If they are unable to get it, they will opt for another product. As a well known example, many who have given up smoking will often say they have put on weight. They have simply replaced one crutch with another. Eating food makes them feel good.

With cigarettes, many say the cells in your body are addicted to the nicotine. I know this to be false as nicotine is a poison that, when taken in a high dose, can kill you. If your cells crave a chemical that can kill you, that means your cells are suicidal! It’s not your cells that crave the chemical, it is your brain. Nicotine is a stimulant and this is what your brain seeks to feel better.

And what controls how you feel?

The chemical?

It makes you feel good in some way.

If you are hooked on a product, what does it do for you?

How does it make you feel?

This is what you need to treat.

 

The Solutions

The following are some of the many solutions available to you:

1. Seek Medical Help

It is wise to first seek medical help. A doctor (medical practitioner) will know the best possible person to refer you through to for further help.

 

2. Seek Professional Help

Consult with someone who specialises in helping people overcome this problem. See if your area has a group who can support you.

If you contact a professional, ask how they will deal with the problem and how many sessions you will need.

Find someone who can help you deal with the cause.

 

3. Deal With the Problem

If you want to fix a problem and gain a long term result, it is important to identify and treat the cause.

What benefit do you gain from taking the product?

What does it do for you?

How does it make you feel?

This is what you have to treat.

In the above graph, if you get your thinking to Point A and keep it there all the time, you no longer need the product (which will only get you to Point B). When I consult with a client who is addicted to drugs, the last thing I want to do is take the drugs off them while they are emotionally at Points B or C. The drug is the only thing that makes them feel good. Once I help them get their thinking to Point A, they then no longer need the product to make them feel good as they achieve this state through their thinking.

Every person I treat for alcohol or drug addiction has low self esteem. They depend on the product to make them feel better.

One client consulted with me to help him overcome his addiction to marijuana. He had to have it every day. When asked what it did for him, he replied “It makes me feel better and gives me confidence”. I taught him how to feel good all the time, how to deal with problems and how to feel confident. At the beginning of the third session he commented “I went around to my friend’s house on Friday and they all started to smoke dope. I didn’t want to as I didn’t feel like it. In fact, it smelt horrible”. He also found that he was no longer interested in the topics of their conversations.

From that point, my client never smoked another another joint. He gave without withdrawals or cravings.

As you change your thinking, you change your feelings and your needs.

Your body has more chemicals than a pharmacy. Some can emotionally pick you up while others can emotionally drop you down. You have chemicals inside your body that are around 14 times stronger than heroin in making you feel good. If you don’t know how to activate these chemicals through your own thinking, you will continue to suffer.

Everything you do is either to gain pleasure or avoid pain. Sometimes you have to put pain to the drug and pleasure to the new state. With smokers, I take them through the chemicals found in cigarettes, what they do to their health and show them photos of lungs affected by smoking. For most, it is a big reality check and they place pain to cigarettes because of what they are doing to their health.

I also ask “If you continue to smoke, what will it do to you?

“Every answer is “It will eventually kill me”.

“So, you are suicidal.”

This comment really gets them thinking.

Along with the use of hypnosis, I have had excellent success dealing with addictions.

Importantly, the person has got to want to deal with the problem. You can’t make someone give up a product if they don’t want to.

 

Cravings and Withdrawals

One of the common problems people suffer on giving up an addiction is cravings and withdrawals.

The best way to explain these is to give a 3 year old a toy and one minute later take it off them. What response do you get?

They cry and throw a tantrum. Why? Because they are happy with the toy. When you take it off them, they focus on what they don’t have, what they are missing and how they are no longer happy because the toy has been taken off them. They then crave the toy back. When they can’t get it, they “chuck a wobbly” or tantrum.

This is what people do when they give up an addiction without dealing with the cause or placing pain to it. I have this theory: You will never crave something you hate. The more you hate it, the easier it is to give it up.

Cravings and withdrawals occur when you attempt to give something up you love or enjoy.

I had one client who smoked 100 cigarettes a day and drank 24 cans of beer every day. When asked why he drank and smoked so much, he commented “I’m a worrier. I worry about everything – especially money”. He gave up both after one two hour consultation (which included hypnosis) – no withdrawals, no cravings.

He looked at the cause in a brief way and, as he valued his health and his family, placed pain to cigarettes and alcohol.

I figure if he can do it, everyone has the potential to do the same.

If you are unable to deal with the way you feel, seek help. The quicker you do, the quicker you are on the road to recovery and enjoying a better life.

* Please note. The above are Clive’s views and are solely meant as a guide to help. If you are unsure of what you are doing or of some point that has been covered, please ask or seek professional help.

 

Like to Know More?

If you would like to know more on how to begin dealing with your addiction, you can:

(i) Make an appointment. You can consult with Clive in person or have a telephone/skype consultation. To consult with him in person, you can either phone Julie on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) to secure a time or e-mail us on clive@clivemurphy.com

(ii) read “You Have The Power” or “Empower Yourself” as they contain information on how to take control of your life.

 

 

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