Personal Counselling

 

There are a number of things that determine how well you process what is happening in your life, two of which are:

(i) the information you are taught and learn, and

(ii) the experiences you go through. Each helps shape the way you think.

Therefore, to change your thinking it is important to have the knowledge on how to do so. Once you have the knowledge, if you are still suffering in some way, it may be time to examine your programming.

 

 

Positive v’s Negative Thinking

With everything you do, there are two sides to doing it – a positive and a negative. Because you run on energy, your mind weighs up the positives and negatives and gives you a net feeling. For example, you may want to be in a great relationship but, when you were 18 years of age, your partner had an affair and left you for this other person.

Because your mind has no concept of time, this memory is still current with all you learnt from the experience at 18 (like “Don’t trust people of the opposite sex”). Your mind now says you have 20 units of positive energy to put into this new relationship (you want to make it work) but the experience of 18 contains 120 units of negative energy (you don’t want to give 100% of yourself and then get hurt) so the net becomes 100 units of negative energy. In this example, it is important to turn the negative experience at 18 into a positive one (with positive energy) so the experience works for you. To do this, you can either have a consultation or read one of my many books. In You Have The Power, there is a chapter on how your mind processes information and how to deal with problems so they work for you rather than against you.

Over the past 27 years Clive has developed his own unique way of helping people. He calls it “Common Sense Therapy“. Clive empowers you through giving you knowledge and resolving conflict. Through dealing with the cause of a problem, consultations are kept to a minimum and there is a good chance you will receive near instant results.

 

 

How Long Should Therapy Take?

This depends on a number of factors:

 How complex the problem is.

✓ How quickly the client is prepared to work. Clive can only work at the pace the client is prepared to work. It’s important to take care and be thorough.

✓ What the client wants to achieve – some want a quick fix, others want a long-term fix.

After the first consultation, Clive will be able to give you an indication on how many sessions will be needed. Many range from 2 to 4.

 

 

What Happens In Therapy?

When you present, Clive knows nothing about you. He needs to know:

✓ What the problem is.

✓ What you think has caused it.

✓ What your Ideal solution is – that is, what you would like to achieve from the sessions.

Clive’s aim is to give you skills and strategies on how to help yourself so when you go home, you are in a position to be able to help yourself when similar problems arise in the future. Most of what you learn is Common Sense and easy to understand.

At the end of each session Clive checks to make sure you have learnt something to take home and put into use.

 

 

When Therapy is not Working

Most clients comment “The solution is so simple and common sense”. It is meant to be.

If you return for a second consultation and you have not received a result, Clive looks to see “why”. In most cases there is either (i) a bad experience stopping you from going forward and processing positive information – in other words, you know what you should be doing but there is something stopping you from doing it. A good example of this is weight loss where you know what to eat and you know to exercise but you don’t. No matter what you do, you still have the weight problem and this is where another factor like stress can play a major part, or (ii) your thinking is not right. Factors here include you may not want to get better, you’re not worthy of getting better, you want someone else to fix the problem, it’s all too hard or you don’t have the energy to put into it. These need to be addressed before any results will be seen.

If you are getting regular counselling and it is not working, speak with your therapist to find out “why”. If nothing is working, it may pay to move on and find someone who can help you.

 

 

Clive specialises in helping you overcome problems like:

✓ Depression

✓ Anxiety

✓ Panic / anxiety attacks

✓ Suicidal thoughts

✓ Poor self esteem

✓ Relationship problems

✓ Sexual problems – men and women

✓ Eating disorders – like anorexia, bulimia, over-weight

✓ Parenting problems

✓ Stressful situations –  work, home, relationships

✓ A sense of loss/grief

✓ Fears – like rejection, failure, success, change and loneliness

✓ Addictions and obsessions

✓ Gambling

✓ Smoking

✓ Loss of direction

✓ Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome

✓ Stuttering

✓ Insomnia

✓ Anger problems

 

 

Clive helps you achieve:

✓ High self esteem

✓ Confidence

✓ Motivation

✓ Peak performance

✓ Control of your life

✓ Weight loss

✓ Your goals – short and long term

✓ A magical relationship with partner and family

✓ A feeling of peace and wellbeing

Every problem has a solution. From working with people over 19 years, Clive is yet to find a problem that does not have a solution. While you hang onto your problems, it is easy for things to get worse as negative thinking produces more negative energy. And if you have a choice between emotionally going up or down, you want to be going up.

Make the commitment to help yourself. The more knowledge you have on how to help yourself, the better you feel.

Clive helps transform you so you feel a sense of peace and motivated.

 

 

Types of Appointment

(i) Face to face. These are generally one-on-one if you have the problem. If it is a relationship problem, it is important to come with with your partner as you will both see things differently (and I need to hear both sides of the story!). If there are issues that affect the whole family, I am happy to consult with the family.

(ii) Telephone. To book a phone consultation, you can either phone Julie on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) to secure a time or e-mail us at clive@clivemurphy.com

(iii) Skype. If you are interested in having a consultation using Skype, please either phone Julie on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) or e-mail us at clive@clivemurphy.com for particulars.

 

 

Clive’s Qualifications

NLP Practitioner

Diploma Clinical Hypnosis

Post Graduate Diploma Psychotherapy

Diploma Health – Clinical Hypnosis

EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)

Educational Kinesiology – balancing to overcome learning difficulties.

Clive also has a Bachelor Agricultural Science, a Diploma Swedish Massage Therapy and a Diploma Iridology. Clive rates his greatest qualification as studying at the University of Life, School of Hard Knocks. His three favourite subjects are “Keep It Simple”, “Common Sense” and “Get Results”.

 

 

For More Information

If you would like more information on how Clive can help you, please feel free to contact us.

 

 

How To Choose A Good Therapist

It is important to select a therapist that is going to deliver the result you are looking for.

Referrals from friends or others who have achieved a great result are worth pursuing.

Finding one in the Yellow Pages can be a nightmare as they all look the same.

Here is a Guide to help you find the therapist that is right for you.    

 

 

Testimonials

“I want to thank you so much, you have made such a difference in so many ways.” … Jen

From a counsellor Clive is mentoring: “My client arrived today, said she did’nt feel well, wasn’t sure she should be here, dragged herself into the chair looking really glum. End of session: she bounced out the door with a smile on her face and said I should feel good about the session today as well! It worked!! Thank you thank you thank you – I am so grateful for your support” – Fiona”

After seeing 11 specialists with nothing working, I see you once and you identify the cause of my problem and how to fix it. Thank you.” … Diane

 

 

 

 

Phone: 02 6921 6373  Email: info@clivemurphy.com  Address: P.O. Box 2421, Wagga Wagga NSW 2650 Australia