I frequently hear clients say “I’m not a morning person” or “I don’t do mornings”.
This means they hate getting out of bed to go to work or to do some activity. They would prefer to lie in until 10am and then begin their day.
If they have to get up early, they are generally cranky, on edge and tired. You know it’s best to avoid them until they have had a cup of coffee or woken up.
Because they hate getting out of bed, they generally have a bad attitude to the day ahead. You often hear people say to them “Did you get out of the wrong side of bed this morning?” which means they are seeing things in a negative way.
The problem here is, what you think is what you get. Think you are going to have a bad day because you are missing out on sleep – and you will.
Why do so many people hate the mornings?
They can fall into two categories:
- They are a “night” person.
This means they prefer to stay up until midnight or 2am. They may be socialising, on the computer, doing some craft work or watching television.
They get into a habit or routine of going to bed late.
Given we require about 8 hours of health restoring sleep to function effectively, it is no wonder these “night” people have trouble getting out of bed.
- They have nothing to look forward to.
When people feel depressed or nothing is happening in their day, they have nothing to look forward to.
If you had to get out of bed and do something you hated for three hours, how excited would you feel getting out of bed?
You wouldn’t. Your brain says you receive much more pleasure from staying in bed and sleeping than you do from getting out of bed.
Your mind works on energy. If there is more energy to do something than not do it, you will do it – and vice versa.
To overcome the routine of going to bed late, simply change your routine – slowly. If you attempt to do it all in one hit, your mind can rebel.
To help this along, you may need to get physically tired (like through exercising) as you sleep best when physically tired.
It is simply a case of changing the routine.
It can be done if the need is big enough.
To overcome nothing to look forward to, give yourself something to look forward to.
If you had to get out of bed early to go on a special holiday, would you easily do it?
Most people say “Yes”.
A minority do say “No”. When asked would they cheerfully get out of bed at 6am to receive a million dollars, they still say “No”.
They have a greater need to stay in bed than receive one million dollars or to go on a special holiday. This indicates the million dollars and the holiday are not important or, it means they are so firmly entrenched in negative thoughts, nothing will get them out of bed.
I’m wondering if their home was on fire at 4am whether they would then happily get out of bed.
I’m betting they would.
This indicates they can if the need is great enough.
If you hate mornings, change your attitude through focusing on the benefits of being up early.
I love early mornings. It’s a time to arise and hear the birds chirping, to greet the hungry dogs and cat and to get things done. I look forward to seeing who I am going to be helping today. I mentally give thanks for all the great things I have and the great things that are occurring in my life. I look forward to having breakfast and the challenges that lie ahead.
Change your attitude to mornings. Give yourself something to look forward to. If you hate your job, either change your attitude to it or find one you do like.
According to Kate Redwood:
“Job satisfaction is a decision, not a state.”
Make life work for you.
Action Plan: What plan can you put into place to help you enjoy early mornings?